5 Things No One Tells You About Grief

What I wish someone had handed me the day after Johnny died.

I'm Amy Von Der Ahe. Yoga therapist. And Johnny's mom.

Johnny was 15 when he was killed by a drunk driver in our own driveway. And in the days and weeks after, nobody handed me a roadmap. Nobody told me the truth about what was actually coming.

So I'm doing that for you.

This guide is five things I had to learn the hard way. Not theories. Not stages. Real tools for the days when you can barely get off the floor.

You don't need to heal. You just need something to hold onto.

This is that.

How This Guide Helps

Real Stories

Amy shares openly from her own experience, with no sugar-coating or platitudes.

Direct & Honest Advice

Clear, practical truths to help you feel less alone as you navigate loss.

Space for Your Grief

There’s no judgment—just honest words from one grieving mom to another.

What’s Inside the Free Guide

#1: You're not going to heal — and that's okay

#2: Your body is grieving too

#3: The waves don't mean you're failing

#4: You don't have to get off the train

#5: Your child is still with you

I Wrote this For You

This is what I wish someone had handed me the day after Johnny died. Five things I had to learn the hard way — about your body, the waves, the memories, and how to stay connected to your child without anyone's permission. It's my gift to you. Just one grieving mom handing another the things that helped.

You don't have to figure this out alone.